Divorce is difficult for everyone involved, and if you have children when you split from your spouse, minimizing the stress they feel as a result of your split may be among your priorities. You may not be able to completely eliminate the emotional toll your divorce may take on your kids. However, there are certain things you might do – and might avoid doing – to help your kids adjust to the change.
Recognizing some of the common mistakes other parents make while navigating divorces may help you avoid making similar errors yourself. As a parent going through a divorce, try to avoid doing any of the following.
Disparaging the other parent in front of your child
You may have legitimate reasons for feeling the way you do about the person you are divorcing. However, avoid voicing your negative opinions in front of any children you share. Doing so may make your child feel as if he or she must take sides, adding an unnecessary level of stress to an already stressful time.
Trashing your soon-to-be-ex on social media
Avoid badmouthing your spouse online for similar reasons. For starters, your child, if age-appropriate, may see your posts. Even if he or she does not see them, your child’s friends, or your child’s friends’ parents, might see it and report back to him or her. Furthermore, your ex may try to use your posts against you if your divorce becomes acrimonious.
Avoid letting emotions cloud your judgment when it comes to your divorce and your children. By keeping a cool head and prioritizing your child’s interests, you may be able to help them navigate your divorce well and come out happy and healthy on the other side.