Ending a marriage is painful, but it does not have to be the bitter, drawn-out process people often make it out to be. It can be a relatively peaceful, amicable process – as long as parties are willing to pursue that outcome.
If this sounds like the route you want to take in your divorce, consider the following ways you can keep your split from becoming contentious.
Keep it out of court
When divorces go to court, parties lose much of the control they once had over family-related matters. And rather than working together to reach solutions, parties turn against each other in litigation.
Options like mediation and collaborative divorce allow parties to stay out of court and retain control over the outcome.
Work with professionals
Too often, people make the mistake of believing that resolving things themselves is the way to a peaceful divorce. However, without guidance from professionals familiar with this process, parties can make unwise decisions that ultimately create more problems than they solve.
People like attorneys, financial analysts and custody counselors can help parties navigate complicated processes they have never been through before. They have experience and knowledge that can make it easier for divorcing spouses to make informed decisions to reach satisfactory, enforceable agreements.
Emotions run high during a divorce, and there can be several matters that leave parties feeling angry, frustrated and scared. As such, it is crucial to communicate carefully with each other during these difficult times.
Consider things like staying off social media to avoid saying or reading something hurtful. Keep any personal interactions brief and refrain from talking about any legal or hot-button issues. And you might want to put your exchanges in writing for the sake of clarity and to minimize confusion.
Focus on what matters
Parties must address everything from child custody to property division during a divorce. And while many of these legal issues are critical, some may be less significant to you. However, it can be challenging to keep things in perspective.
Throughout the divorce process, it can help to take a step back and assess your wishes and expectations. Identify the matters that are most important to you and focus on those.
Further, remember that this process will end, and there is a new chapter waiting around the corner.