As a parent, you want to ensure that your child is properly nurtured and supported on his journey through life. This can be somewhat difficult after a divorce since you’ll probably need to make important parenting decisions with your ex’s input. According to Parents Magazine, devising a sound parenting strategy is possible, provided you following these helpful tips.
Rethink your relationship
It can be hard to let go of the baggage related to a marriage gone wrong. As a result, even simple issues can be tough to work out with your ex, even if you both obviously want what’s best for your child. A change of perspective can be helpful in this case. Think of your ex as a co-worker that you don’t necessarily get along with. While you may be at odds with the person, you must work together effectively to strive towards a common goal. This helps keep perspective on the needs of your child while also providing a strategy for dealing with hurt and resentment.
Know how to diffuse tension
When one parent has primary physical custody, the court allows the other parent visitation in most cases. While this is integral for your child to have a loving, trusting relationship with both parents, some kids are reluctant to spend time with the non-custodial parent for a myriad of reasons. In this case, support your child but encourage him to pay a visit to your ex so they can maintain a healthy relationship. You can do this by acknowledging your child’s feelings but emphasizing all the fun he’ll have once the visit is underway.
Have a strategy for dealing with loneliness
In the same token, you’re bound to experience loneliness and sadness while your child is away on visits. Once again, reframe the situation so you can see it from a more positive perspective. Visits provides personal time for you, which you can spend with loved ones, pursuing a hobby, or taking up a new exercise regimen. Taking time for yourself improves your mental and physical health, which in turn allows you to be a better parent.