With August almost here, you’re probably gearing up for the start of the new school year. This can be a difficult time for divorced parents, who will need to work in conjunction to ensure their kids remain on schedule this year. To help you get by, Lifehacker recommends the following tips.
Create a calendar
Online calendars are great for keeping organized. They can also be easily accessed and altered by you and your ex, which is why it’s a good idea to start one at the beginning of a new school year. Older kids can also be invited to add to and edit the calendar, which is helpful for parents to stay abreast of happenings they might otherwise miss. There are also apps you can use, which offer features like expense tracking and sharing of medical records.
Make sure the school is informed
If your divorce is recent, make sure your child’s school is informed about any changes. For example, if you commonly picked up your kids but your ex will now be assuming duties on some days, school staff must know about these changes to prevent any confusion. This can also make the situation much easier on your kids, who might feel uncomfortable about certain aspects of the divorce. Make sure the staff also has contact numbers for both you and your ex in the event of an emergency situation.
Don’t be afraid to request changes
While you and your ex only want what’s best for your kids, it’s natural for there to be some resentment. In this case, don’t be afraid to ask for accommodations that make your life easier. If you’re having a hard time facing your ex right now, see if you can’t schedule two separate parent-teacher conferences when necessary. Also, choose the method of communication that works best for you. If face to face meetings or phone calls are uncomfortable, communicate via text and email alone. This is also helpful for remembering important information since it will all be in writing.