Parenting following a divorce in Plantation can be challenging, particularly for those whose custody has been limited by their divorce decrees. Most who are in this situation look for ways that they can maximize the time they have with their kids. Some allow this ambition to prompt them to fill their parenting time with activities and adventures, forsaking any rules and structure. In their minds, this essentially “buys” their children’s continuing affection while painting the custodial parent as being mean and demanding. Yet these “Disneyland dads” often find that such a strategy does not lend itself to effective long-term parenting.
While the short-term jubilation that kids feel when with their Disneyland dad is often viewed as respect and appreciation, many family relations experts point to case studies that show that it may produce the exact opposite feelings. Information shared by The Good Men Project shows that despite what many may think, kids expect the following from their parents:
- Education in developing the skills to cope with life’s challenges along with its joys
- Counsel when difficult situations do arise
- Consistency in dealing with parenting matters
Disneyland dads often tend to avoid these tough scenarios for fear that trying to set an example of self-discipline or impose rules will undermine their attempts to be viewed as the fun parent. However, their kids typically begin to view them as non-authoritative figures in their lives, and thus tune them out when it comes to dealing with important issues.
The term “Disneyland dad” is associated with this type of detached parenting primarily due to the fact that men have historically been the ones to have their custody limited (indeed, the U.S. Census Bureau shows that only one of every six custodial parents is a father). Yet mothers can become Disneyland parents, as well.